Alternative to Fixing
I discovered Pema Chodron a few years ago. She’s an American Buddhist nun and author. Quite a combination. In her book, Comfortable with Uncertainty , one of the chapters really struck me. It talks about three strategies we use that, however much we believe they work, really sabotage us:
Attacking
We’ve all been with that colleague who’s typical response to the familiar “how was your weekend” question on Monday morning is, “Why didn’t you get that report done on Friday?” Kind of like the sucker punch your older cousin would give you at family gatherings – doesn’t really do any long-term damage, but it sure hurts in the moment. Ever wonder what that colleague has left unfinished? Think about it.
Indulging
Comfort, is what Chodron points to directly. Comfort with the how many clients you have. Comfort with how sales have gone or how your engineering team only had to delay the project one day. Comfort that tomorrow will be the same as yesterday. The moment you say “I know” or “The economy is having an impact” is the moment you’ve completely embraced your indulgence.
Ignoring
I have a friend who, no matter where we are, stops to pick up trash. My clear and unconscious action is to simply walk by it. What’s the difference? My friend sees that every action he takes has an impact. I ignore trash on the street largely because I feel it won’t make a difference. In those moments I’m ignoring the difference I make. If we take the conversation beyond trash, where else do I ignore making a difference?
